The month of February is known as the month of love. It is also a time when people across America and around the world celebrate Valentine's Day, and do nice things for the significant other in their lives. However, there are some very important things that should be understood and attended to throughout the entire year in order for married couples and their families to enjoy the benefits of their love for one another through healing and restoration.
In order for a marriage and family to be healed and restored, each individual must be willing to embrace change. I have personally observed the fact that almost all of the issues and challenges which are faced in marriages and families could be settled automatically if only one or more of the people in the family would begin to change. Although, change almost never occurs until something tragic or very serious happens in order to motivate people to have a change of heart.
Before a change of heart can occur, one must realize and understand why it is necessary to do so. When you became born again your spirit was automatically renewed and made alive unto God, but your soul which encompasses your mind, will, intellect, judgment, appetites, emotions yet needs to be renewed in Christ. When you consider the kind of thoughts and opinions that are contained in your heart, are they aligned with the Word of God as the final authority, or do you defend them in order to maintain your present position and attitude? If they are not aligned with God's word, you've just identified the areas where strongholds exist as fortresses of thought, ideas and opinions that are of an ungodly and sinful nature. Thoughts of unbelief, a lack of compassion, cold heartedness, various kinds of fear (phobias), pride, unforgiveness and lusts involving sexual appetites, food, money, etc., are strongholds which entangle the soul. They must be confessed, renounced and authority must be taken against them by the Word of God until they have been severed from the root.
"For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ."
(2 Corinthians 10:3-5, NKJV)
Again, in order for marriages and families to be healed and restored, the individuals who are companions and members of the marriage and family have to be made whole first. Once the decision has been made to change then healing can begin, and lives can be changed for the better!
The first thing that needs to take place is to turn your will over to God completely by submitting yourself to God's Word according to Isaiah 1:19, which says, "If ye be willing and obedient, ye shall eat the good of the land." In order to eat the good of the land you must submit and come under the will of God by setting aside your plans, desires and appetites for God's desires, plans and will for your life.
Secondly, you must increase your knowledge base. Your level of knowledge and understanding of the Word of God must increase in order for change to occur in your life. The direct proportion to which your knowledge increases will correspondingly affect the degree to which you receive the insight needed to activate and apply so that change becomes evident. Otherwise, you will continue to partake of the wrong things and produce wrong results. If your context is wrong, your outcome will also be wrong. So, personal growth and development of your knowledge base is essential in your ability to improve the condition of your marriage and family relationships.
Third, let the Word of God be the standard by which you measure the depth of your progress. Look into the perfect law of liberty everyday especially in the morning and in the evening, making it your daily bread until you reflect the characteristics, love, compassion, wisdom, and integrity that it contains. In doing so, you will begin to experience the results in the way you respond to your companion, family members and others you come into contact with daily.
"But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it, not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it, they will be blessed in what they do." (James 1:25, NIV)
Fourth, guard your heart by meditating and applying the Word of God as a lifestyle instead of on occasion. According to Proverbs 4:23, it is very important to "Keep thy heart with all diligence, for out of it flows the issues of life." Therefore, you will have to consider the things which you are allowing to enter your heart, because if you allow refuse and garbage in that's what will come out. Instead, ensure that you are deliberately and intentionally protecting and cultivating a spiritually healthy thought life by meditation and application of God's word every day.
Finally, set aside quality time for personal devotion in prayer and communion between you and God alone. Then ensure that you dedicate special time to enter into prayer with your companion on a daily basis as much as possible. This will help to build intimacy and agreement in the marriage, and undo any plots of the adversary to creep in and destroy the covenant relation that God has blessed you with. It will also allow the Holy Spirit to minister and manifest the blessings of God upon your family as He is acknowledged as the author, originator, sovereign leader and head of your household.
"The effectual fervent prayers of the righteous availeth much." (James 5:16b)
When a husband prays together with his wife and visa-versa, it brings the presence and anointing of God to bear, which in turn creates a healthy marriage relationship and family oriented atmosphere that is conducive to the blessing that "maketh rich and He addeth no sorrow with it." (Proverbs 10:22)
I want to encourage you to embrace change, and commit yourself to being in submission to God. Expand your knowledge base of God's Word, and allow it to be the standard by which you measure your progress. Finally set aside quality time for personal devotion in prayer as well as with your companion and family. I am confident that in doing so, you will experience the rewards of a restored and healthy marriage. It all begins with you making a conscious decision to change, learn, grow and improve personally.
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